As one member sees it.
I sobered up before there was SOS. I
went to AA not because it helped me stay sober but because I was told over and
over this was the only way that I could remain sober/drug free. What I got most
from AA was that "I made it a place where I practiced speaking" in discussion
meetings. I learned to over come my shyness. I meet some really great people
there. Made friends and found that I enjoyed the parts between the meeting best.
In using AA I never did the steps.
When asked what step I was on I would say I was still working on the first one.
I never did get through it.
I would never recite the lords
prayer. For me religion was and still is a private matter.
The idea of a sponsor was not to my
liking. It was foreign to all of my beliefs. Why would I put my life in the
hands of a drunk or a dope fiend? I may have had problems with alcohol/drugs
that didn't mean that I was crazy. If I need someone to tell me how to live my
life I will go to a professional. Our I will make my own mistakes and learn from
I was criticized for how I was doing
my recovery. I was told over and over what I was doing was wrong. Why wasn't I
encouraged to continue with what was working? This is a support group isn't it?
The longer I stayed clean & sober
the more criticism I got.
I finely left AA and continued on
with my recovery.
When I found SOS I really liked the
way they embraced the fact that we are each different. Our recovery is different
for each of us. Our religious and political views are separate from our
I have encouraged many of our
members to go to AA for support. There are SOS members who use both SOS & AA.
The problem that I have had "in my
opinion" is that the group doesn’t take a stand about members criticizing
another members way of recovery. If it works it works. The group in "my opinion"
has a duty to let its members know that there is no such thing as one way.
With all this said I would still
suggest that SOS members go to AA for support.
Seek out supportive people. Know
that you have a "Safe Place" to come back to. If a member of SOS jumps on you
and says that your recovery plain is wrong, most of us at SOS will jump to our
feet and defend you & your right to be different. If what you are doing is
working and you are alcohol/drug free then you must be doing some thing right.
I would like to reach out to AA
members. Please do no harm. If someone can't make it in AA send him or her to
other groups so they may have a chance of finding recovery. Care about the
person first the group comes second.
In SOS using other support groups in
no way will affect your standing in SOS. We are each unique. There is no such
thing a "one way".
This is Duaine M. from Dallas here.